Smoking and Feelings

Smoking is a way to implement our wishes and feelings. Otherwise we would never smoke.

To give up smoking, one has to investigate the motives for smoking and elaborate new models of behaviour in the situations when previously we resorted to smoking; then replace the old models with the new ones.

Notice that a non-smoker do not need a cigarette to communicate with the others, a non-smoker do not start smoking when he/she wants to have a break or, otherwise, to think about something.

On the contrary, a smoker cannot normally implement many of his/her wishes without the help of smoking. Sometimes, certainly, he/she can do this (but typically does not want to), but he cannot do without cigarettes all the time!

In most cases (almost 100%) a smoker does not realize his/her real wishes. With time he/she starts mixing them with the wish to have a cigarette!

Some people believe that the main problem of refusing smoking is nicotine addiction. But this is not really so. Or this is not a problem at all. The main problem is the inability to live through various situations without a cigarette.

If you have ever tried to quite smoking for more or less lengthy period, you could notice that this was not the nicotine addiction that brought you back to smoking (as if you had real chuck horrors as a drug addict), but some definite situation: stress, a holiday with alcohol, a heart talk near the fire and so on. You felt a strong desire to react to one of your wishes with the help of the way you have trained multiple times during the years - by smoking.

Thus, the task of quitting smoking can be reduced to three relatively easy steps:

1. Understand the reasons of your smoking
2. Develop new models of behaviour
3. Fix those models.

There is one more important barrier. It is called the fear. You are afraid that the quality of your life will get worse. You will be more nervous, will not be able to relax and will suffer without cigarettes and so on.

The irony is that the quality of your life will significantly improve. Even more, it will improve in all aspects. Proving this fact is not a rewarding business, however, the Internet gives us certain opportunities, one of which is learning from the experience of other people exposed in the electronic format.